What to do when you meet a girl you like is the key to grasping fate and taking action bravely. Being timid and retreating can easily lead to missed opportunities, while being reckless and reckless can easily scare her away. Appropriate actions can narrow the distance and give goodwill a chance to grow. Here are 4 core methods to help you learn coping skills, naturally break the ice and build connections, show your personality sincerely, grasp the rhythm and not be impatient, so that fate will not slip away, and your heart will be promoted through actions, your goodwill will be accumulated through details, and the relationship will be warmed up in calmness, without being timid or reckless.

1. Natural ice-breaking: Make the first meeting start easily

(I) Find natural topics to start with

Say in a bookstore: “I’ve read the book you picked up, and the ending is super surprising. Do you want to spoil it a little bit?”; Say while waiting in line: “It’s super hard to wait for milk tea at this place, which flavor do you recommend?”; For example: “I met a girl I like in a coffee shop, and I said, ‘The latte art you ordered is so beautiful, do you come here often?’ She smiled and nodded, and natural topics make the opening less awkward.” When you meet a girl you like, don’t ask for WeChat directly. First find a topic related to the scene to make the communication more natural.

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(II) Use details to praise her without being greasy

Say: “The color of the headphones you wear is so special, and it matches your clothes today~”; “When you smile, your eyes are curved, like there are stars, I couldn’t help but look at them a few more times just now”; for example: “I said, ‘The pattern on the notebook cover you chose is so cute, your aesthetic taste is super online’, and she shyly said ‘thank you’. Praising details shows sincerity and is not exaggerated.” Focusing on specific details when praising her is more attentive than saying “you are beautiful” in general, so that she feels that she is being paid attention to and does not resist.

2. Show your sincerity: Make your personality attractive

(I) Share yourself naturally

Say: “I love to explore shops on weekends. I found a hidden bakery last week. I can recommend it to you next time”; “I usually like to take pictures of the sky. Do you think this sunset is very healing?”; For example: “When chatting with a girl I like, I said, ‘I am a bit directionally challenged. I went around three times to find this shop last time.’ She smiled and said, ‘Me too.’ Sharing truthfully brings you closer.” Don’t pretend to be perfect. Naturally expose your small flaws or share your hobbies so that she can see the real you. Personality is more attractive than disguise.

(II) Listen to her carefully

When chatting, stare into her eyes and don’t interrupt the topic. When she shares her hobbies, respond: “Do you like camping? I was almost carried away by mosquitoes when I was camping before. It was so miserable.” For example: “She said she likes to watch documentaries. I said, ‘Have you seen Planet Earth? The snow-capped mountain shots in it are super shocking.’ Focus on responding to make her feel valued.” When you meet a girl you like, don’t just show yourself. Listen carefully and respond to her words. This kind of respect is more touching than talking a lot.

3. Grasp the rhythm: Give the relationship room to grow

(I) Don’t rush to advance the relationship

After adding WeChat, chat about daily life first, don’t rush to meet up; after chatting for a week, say: “I found that we both love talk shows. We have a performance next week. Do you want to go together?”; for example: “After adding WeChat, we chatted for half an hour every day, and we asked to have coffee a week later. She said, ‘I just happened to be free.’ The slow pace made her feel less stressed.” When you meet a girl you like, don’t rush to confirm the relationship. Give each other time to get to know each other. Too fast a pace can easily make her feel offended. It is safer to advance calmly.

(II) Maintain moderate initiative

Send a greeting every day, but don’t reply immediately; respond actively when she shares interesting things, and don’t disturb her when she is busy; for example: “She said she was busy with work, and I said, ‘Remember to rest after you’re done, and I’ll chat with you later.’ Moderate initiative shows concern, but don’t pester her.” Be proactive but not clingy, let her know that you care but don’t depend on her. This kind of relaxed attitude is more attractive than sending messages every day.

4. Leave a hook: Make it possible to connect later

(I) Make an appointment for the next interaction

Say: “I haven’t been to the bookstore you mentioned yet. Can you lead the way next time?”; “Next time there is a new movie, remember to call me. I am very good at choosing seats”; for example: “At the end of the chat, I said, ‘Next time I will take you to try that super spicy hot pot. Do you dare to challenge it?’ She replied, ‘Who is afraid of who?’ The appointment allows the relationship to continue.” When you meet a girl you like, leave a small appointment at the end of the chat so that she will look forward to the next interaction and the relationship will not be interrupted.

(II) Connect with common interests

Say: “You like painting. I just want to learn it. Can I ask you for help in the future?”; “I found that we both like to listen to Jay Chou. Let’s remind each other when his new songs are released”; for example: “I said, ‘Do you also play jigsaw puzzles? I just bought a super difficult one. I can’t put it together and ask you for help.’ She smiled and agreed. Common interests make the connection more solid.” Find common points with each other to keep the interaction going. The relationship will slowly heat up in common interests without being awkward.

5. Guide to Avoiding Pitfalls: These Behaviors Can Lose Points

(I) Don’t Check Hukou or Ask Excessively

Don’t say: “How old are you? Where do you live? What do you do?”; “Why is your Moments visible for three days? Do you have any secrets?”; For example: “Asking about privacy when we just met, she obviously gave a perfunctory response. Excessive inquiries are offensive. Respecting boundaries is the most important thing.” When you meet a girl you like, don’t rush to know all the information. Leave space for each other. It is easier to be accepted step by step than to press step by step.

(II) Don’t use greasy routines or show off

Don’t say: “I have several houses at home, so I don’t need you to work in the future”; “You are so beautiful, there must be many people chasing after you. Can I queue up?”; For example: “Say greasy and tacky love words, she is embarrassed and doesn’t respond. Routine will only lower the impression. Sincerity is more attractive than routine.” Avoid using exaggerated routines or showing off material things. Girls you like care more about sincere attitudes, and authenticity is more touching than disguise.

6. Key principles: The core is “bravery + sincerity”

What to do when you meet a girl you like? The core is “both be brave and sincere”. Skills are auxiliary, attitude is fundamental, it is better to take the initiative to try than to be timid and retreat. Remember, the best result is “no regrets, let her feel your kindness”. Break the ice naturally, show sincerity, and give your heart a chance to blossom. Even if it doesn’t work out, don’t regret it. Bravery itself is a gain.